You probably read the title of this post and felt pity for me. Single and thirty? Who could possible want that? Well… I’m not sure I wanted or expected it. But it’s what I am and I’m learning to embrace my new single life at 30 years old. I am even learning to enjoy being alone.
When you’ve always been a couple, it can take some serious adjustment to be on your own. It feels uncomfortable and sometimes it is really isolating. At 30 years old, almost all of my friends are in relationships and are settling down. It’s hard not to feel like the odd one out for me. However, I’ve learnt that being single and at this age, can be quite liberating.
Society gives the narrative that women of a certain age should be married with babies by this age. You’ve no doubt heard “You’ll meet someone soon.” even when you seem perfectly happy. However, women are realising that it’s okay if you never do meet anyone. Your singleness doesn’t need to be fixed. It’s okay to be alone and it’s time to embrace it.
Let’s list all the reasons why being single at 30 should be embraced!
You didn’t settle
In your 20s you may have thought you met the right match, only for the relationship not to work. Good! That means you didn’t settle for someone who would make you unhappy in the long run. Imagine being stuck with someone you know is not your soulmate, for forever!
You’re the decision-maker now
Being single means you get to make all of your own decisions. You’re the ruler of your own destiny and you don’t have a partner there to influence you. You get to call the shots.
No more in-laws
I don’t think we need to expand on this one… woohooooo!
Your time is your own
Being single means you have all of your free time to explore your interests and hobbies. Sometimes in a relationship we get caught up with our partner and lose ourselves in the process.
You never know what the future holds
You are single and able to meet new people that you would never have had the chance to before! That means your opportunities are endless. Even if you are holding out for your soulmate, you’ll have fun getting to date and meet different people!
Your standards are higher
If you’ve made it to 30 and are on the market again, the chances are you have suffered a few fools. Hopefully, this means your standards will be sky high. At this age, we have a better sense of who we are and what we want and we won’t tolerate people or behaviours that do not serve us any purpose.
You can be selfish without the guilt
Relationships are all about compromises. Now you don’t have to compromise and take into consideration someone else’s feelings and preferences. You can wear what you like, eat without sharing, book last minute trips, all with nobody to answer to!
These are just some of the reasons to embrace being single in your 30s… We haven’t even mentioned NOT having to share your bed anymore! Let us know what your favourite part about being single is.
Written by Jade